At this coffee shop I regularly get a daily dose of interesting news that is either good or bad. My favorite is usually the bad, because it is usually something that I should care about, but I tend to think about it less and less. It is often a chance to vent or to discuss a problem I have with that person or organization.
The problem with this place is that I have too much time on my hands and I have no idea how to take it. I’d love to have a place in my life where I can find my brain-full of useful tips and news and ideas, but I just can’t figure out how to get anyone to come in and sit and listen.
That may be the biggest hurdle that keeps people from signing up for my daily news cafe. That and how to get any of you to listen to me.
If you don’t have a problem, you might just have to wait and see. Once you have a problem, someone will probably step on it or a problem will surface. The best thing to do is just sit and listen to me talk about the problems I face. Maybe you’ll even learn something from my stories that you’ll want to learn or that will help your life.
When I started out, I had no problem with people hearing me talk about my problems. It was just that I was so bad at talking about my problems that people just assumed I was an angry asshole. I guess it’s still that way for a lot of people. They see I’m just an angry asshole and assume I’m an angry asshole. I’m not.
But you see, if you are an angry asshole, you can easily hide your anger. I still don’t know how people do that so I just sit and listen to my problems and think about what I’m going to do next about my problems.
It’s one of those things that is harder than it looks. For those of us who have a problem with talking about our problems, we are also prone to hiding our anger. When I try to talk about mine, I just sit and listen to the problem until my anger shows itself. I guess it’s those of us who know we are angry who are the most able to hide our anger.
You are not a failure if you cannot sit and listen to a problem without anger. Anger is something that we all carry. It’s a natural part of our human condition. The less we carry our anger, the less likely we are to hide it and the more easily it shows itself. Anger is also the emotion that fuels almost all our problems.
Anger is usually the reaction to something we cannot control. When we are angry we tend to lash out at people we dislike, and if we are angry with ourselves it is much harder to stop. Anger is the common denominator that seems to be causing so many of our problems.
As it turns out, anger is contagious. Once you start holding onto it, it can get wrapped around your brain like a voodoo doll. Your anger will continue to grow until you eventually burn out. For example, I have been in a lot of arguments with my wife, and I have had a lot of anger issues as well as depression.